Is your marriage is in trouble?
Is everyone telling you it's hopeless?
Has it already ended in divorce?
Is there really HOPE for my marriage?
Yes! There's Hope at Last
You've looked for help, you've read books, talked to counselors, your friends, your pastor, and everything just got worse. So you decided you might just find some marriage help online.
Believe or not it's not by chance, nor is it by coincidence, which you have found our website— God has heard your cry for help, and He has personally led you to our ministry that began by helping RESTORE marriages that appeared hopeless!
This IS your Divine appointment.
Your life is about to change—forever!!
Restore Ministries International began in 1992 by helping marriages that appeared hopeless, and He (God) RESTORED them. We know & understand what you are going through since the women who are here to help you HAVE experienced a RESTORED marriage!
Even if there is adultery, an adulterous marriage (where one or both partners have been unfaithful), which seems to be the one situation, most agree are the most hopeless. We know, after filling almost over four books of restored marriage testimonies, that God can restore any marriage—YES, even yours! And, thankfully, God doesn't stop (or begin) there. HE is more than able to restore each and every area of your life as you trust Him to do it!
"Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh; is anything too difficult for Me?" Jeremiah 32:27
No doubt you have been told by just about everyone that you should give up and move on and just find someone else—don't. Instead, agree with us and the Psalmist who said:
"Ah Lord GOD! Behold, You have made the heavens and the earth by Your great power and by Your outstretched arm! NOTHING (not one thing) is too difficult for You!" Jeremiah 32:17
Amazingly RESTORED Marriages that GOD Restored!
"And they overcame him because of the blood of the Lamb and because of the word of their testimony, and they did not love their life even to death"— Revelation 12:11
Restoration and Husband's Salvation in Alabama
About three months ago I found out my husband was cheating on me, and I kicked him out. I didn't know what to do, and then his friend bought me the How God Can and Will Restore Your Marriage book. I read it, and it changed me so much!!!! Then I saw that God had to change the things in me He had wanted before he brought my husband home.
Only one month later, my husband came to spend the weekend with the kids. At the end of the weekend, he could see such a difference that he asked to come home!!! He was home for two months and then he went with the same friend, who gave me your book, to a flea market of all places. There he met a man and my husband got saved right there in the middle of the flea market crowd!!!! Praise be to our God!!!!
Our marriage and our life have been great ever since then! God hears your prayers and has His perfect timing for everything — just obey and let God take over!!!
About three months ago I found out my spouse was cheating on me and I foolishly said: "Get out!!" I didn't know what to do, and then his friend bought me your Restore Your Marriage book. I read it in one night, and it changed me so much!!!!
Then I saw that God had to change the things in me He had wanted before he brought my spouse home. That began my transformation from who I was to who my spouse deserved.
Only one month later, my spouse came to spend the weekend with the kids and me. At the end of the weekend, there was such a difference in both of us and asked that's what led to us reconciling!!!
Our marriage and our life have been great ever since then, and now we're studying A Wise Man and A Wise Woman as a couple to help others and get us both focusing on the Lord rather than on each other!
God will hear your prayers and has His perfect timing for everything -- just obey and let God take over!!!
~ Joe and Mary Lou in Idaho, RESTORED
It Happened for a Reason — God had a Plan!!
My spouse had moved out and was living with a co- worker stating “I not happy and feel unwanted in our 20+ years of marriage”! After approximately six weeks of separation and moving toward divorce, I realized that divorce did not have to be the answer. I decided to “fight the good fight.” I was doing it alone with my prayers. A pastor friend across the country referred me to your website. I immediately ordered the “Restore Your Marriage” book and read it within a couple of days.
I knew that God would restore our marriage; it was only a matter of days before I began to see changes in myself and would stop to think about what I had done to change. I realized it was not me — it was God working in awesome ways! The changes came after I began to realize the things I had done wrong, prayed for God to change me, and prayed for our marriage. I had to turn it all over to God and trust Him completely.
My spouse couldn’t imagine that the changes were real and that I wasn’t putting on a front. We did not talk much but would occasionally email to discuss the kids. Just as Erin mentioned in her book, I was tested when we talked. I felt this happen on several occasions where something hurtful would be said to see if I would react. I did not react as I would have in the past, which proved that I was a new person.
It was December 28 when my spouse showed up at the resort where I was. I did not expect it, and my spouse didn’t know until 30 minutes before leaving our hometown for the resort that we would be RESTORED!
All I can say is to be sure to turn it all over to God. I found that so many things happened just as Erin said they would in the RYM book. I followed her advice, read the Scriptures, and prayed, and that is what got me through. It will get you through also.
“If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.” All of this happened for a reason. God had a plan, and now my spouse and I are so much happier. We are living for God; we have a great marriage, and it just gets better every day! Thank you, Erin, for your ministry. It is so awesome how you have helped so many marriages, ours included! God is wonderful, and what a gift He has given you!
~ Lydia and Tom in New Mexico, RESTORED
Restored — To Him Be All the Glory!
After praying and fasting for six years, I asked the Holy Spirit to guide me through the Internet to some ministry that would help me.The Holy Spirit guided me to Restore Ministries! I couldn't wait to order the three recommended books, all the videotapes and join your fellowship! As soon as I received the books, I read and reread them. It has truly been a tremendous blessing in my life, as well as the lives of others!
After applying the principles in your books as well as the hedge of thorns, within three weeks my spouse came home!! All I can say is, DON'T GIVE UP! I believe that what helped me the most was to be obedient to God's Word in everything. That's what did it!
God bless you, Erin! God's blessings to you and your family!
~ Kyle and Marsha in North Dakota, RESTORED
Miracle Restoration Deep in the Heart(s) of Texas!
I discovered your ministry when I was looking for answers, stumbling upon the website. It served to confirm to me what the Holy Spirit was beckoning me to do . . . Do not divorce, let go, and believe in your marriage. Your books filled in the blanks! Thank you!
God changed me before changing my situation. I first learned how to become humble and keep my mouth shut. I learned to lean on the Lord and the Lord only! I also learned about the power of fasting. I instantly began to think about maybe praying again, but would He listen? Then without hesitation, I got down on my knees and rededicated my life to the Lord, asking my spouse to change me.
As I prayed, I made the decision to stay in our marriage and work it out, but I asked the Lord to please give me "feelings" for my spouse again or else I didn't see how it would work. I also prayed that He would change my spouse and bring my spouse back to the Lord.
In the following weeks, my hunger for the Lord grew insatiably. I began reading the Bible thoroughly for the first time. I was attending church regularly and tithing as the Bible instructs. In less than a month, my feelings for my spouse had returned and I loved and was "in love" with my spouse! It was miraculous since I hadn't felt that way for my spouse since we first dated. I was just waiting and praying for the Lord to do the same to my spouse.
A few months later, not only did our marriage take a turn for the worse, but I finally found out that there had been in adultery—going on for a while. I was stunned, shocked, empty, lonely, crushed, and my heart and self-worth were shattered.
Praise God, while it was excruciatingly painful, I came out refined, pure, and consecrated! The whole storm was over a year and a half. Keep in mind though your test, in actuality, is a lifetime.
In the beginning, I had Christian counselors advise me to divorce my spouse…can you believe it? Boy, do they need these books so they can learn that only God is able to restore an impossible situation!! He called something that was dead back to life!! It has been almost two years since my spouse came home permanently. It definitely took at least a full year to heal and overcome the damage done, but it is worth a new marriage in Christ and a broken divorce curse. Neither of us could be happier in our marriage.
My spouse tells me daily “I loves you and I miss you when I am at work!” I praise God for all that he taught me during my trial and now what seemed a curse was truly a masterpiece of a blessing from the Lord. He makes all things new!!
~ Kery and John in Texas, RESTORED
Impossibly Restored (by God Alone) and More!
After three years with Restore Ministries as a RYM member, my husband not only came home to our children and me, but received Jesus and was baptized and now is growing by leaps and bounds in Christ!! We are both renewed and restored, thanks to God!
The Lord had a lot of work to do on me so that I could learn how to love and how to pray for my husband; I had to get rid of all the hate, resentment and pain, first, as did my husband. We are both in love with the Lord and with each other now and want to work in a marriage ministry.
Throughout my trials, the principles from God's Word and RMI resources taught me perseverance, to never give up, endurance, and to KNOW that the Lord hears our prayers.
The resources I would recommend are: Restore Ministries, her books, and The Holy Bible!
Even when we do not realize it, God has heard our prayers and continues to work on our hearts. He is a faithful God Who keeps His promises to us when we are faithful. He is so worthy of our praise and worship!
There is no way our marriage could have been restored without God. We had been married 21 years when my husband left. He was angry, disillusioned, repressed and full of animosity. At the time, he said he was "done," but thankfully, the Lord had other plans. Thank you, Jesus!
After three years of praying and praying with Restore Ministries, my spouse not only came home to our children and me, but received Jesus and was baptized and now is growing by leaps and bounds in Christ!! We are both renewed and restored, thanks to God!
The Lord had a lot of work to do on me so that I could learn how to love and how to pray for my spouse; I had to get rid of all the hate, resentment and pain, first, as did my spouse. We are both in love with the Lord and with each other now and want to work in a marriage ministry.
Throughout my trial, the principles from God's Word and your resources taught me perseverance, to never give up, endurance, and to KNOW that the Lord hears our prayers. The resources I would recommend are: Your ministry and The Holy Bible!
Even when we do not realize it, God has heard our prayers and continues to work on our hearts. He is a faithful God Who keeps His promises to us when we are faithful. He is so worthy of our praise and worship!
There is no way our marriage could have been restored without God. We had been married 21 year when my spouse left. He was angry, disillusioned, depressed and full of animosity. At the time, he said he was "done," but thankfully, the Lord had other plans.Thank You, Jesus!
~ Michael and Diane in California, RESTORED
Can GOD Really Restore MY Marriage?
There is no doubt that God has heard your cry for help in your marriage struggles and defeats. That’s why He predestined this Divine Appointment to give you the help and hope that you so desperately need right now!
We know and understand what you are going through since so many of us have already experienced a RESTORED marriage and now are living the Abundant Life the Jesus died to give us!
"I am the door; if anyone enters through Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find a pasture to rest. The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly"—John 10:9-11
Each of us who have experienced a restored marriage will tell you the very same thing—that no matter what anyone else has told you, YOUR marriage is NOT hopeless! We have proof even beyond our own marriages—more than THREE books of restored marriage testimonies are PROOF that God is able to restore any marriage—especially yours!
You read it once before the LORD Himself says, "Behold, I am the LORD, the God of all flesh; is anything too difficult for Me?" (Jeremiah 32:27). Will you believe what your spouse has said, that it's hopeless? Or a friend or a counselor told you? Or will you believe that GOD said?!?!
Why debate facts, we have proof that God restores our hopeless marriages! Do you really think that your situation and marriage is too difficult for GOD to change, improve or restore? It’s not! We were told the very same things and they were wrong!!
However, if you choose to follow the same advice, the same foolish methods, then you're going to end up exactly the same way.
“Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it"—Matthew 7:13-14
Now that you've found the Narrow Gate, will you go through it and gain the wisdom, knowledge and understanding that you (and just about everyone) lack? Are you willing to let go of the lies and myths and Renew Your Mind with what God says about marriage AND how HE can RESTORE it?
Our goal is simply to "preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort, with great patience and instruction. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance to their own desires, and will turn away their ears from the truth and will turn aside to myths"—2 Timothy 4:2-4
God said your marriage crisis happened because "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge. Because you have rejected knowledge, I also will reject you...Since you have forgotten the law of your God, I also will forget your children"—Hosea 4:6
Do it for your children, do it for your spouse, do it for others who will be watching. Humble yourself, become astudent of His Word, and watch your life change in almost immediately!!
One more thing you need to understand right now: if you have not only been told that your marriage is hopeless but that without your spouse's help your marriage cannot be restored, then you need to build your faith in God's desire and ability to Restore even the most hopeless marriages. By reading the testimonies of seemingly hopeless marriages that now have been restored and EVERYONE was restored when just ONE spouse wanted restoration, is proof.
Over the course of more than 20 years of ministry that God puts the desire for restoration into the heart of just ONE in each relationship, and often it's the one who is not be caught in sin. "His own iniquities will capture the wicked, and he will be held with the cords of his sin"—Proverbs 5:22
But, if just ONE of you can get help and stand in the gap for the other, then RESTORATION is going to happen—He, not we, guarantee it will. "I [God] searched for someone among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for them, so that I would not destroy it; but I found no one"—Ezekiel 22:30
When we add your name to the next one of our online books, the next—By the Word of Their Testimony book, which will be brand new book, once again, completely filled with testimonies of restored marriages that everyone said were hopeless, then you will also join us and shout . . .
"Ah Lord GOD! Behold, You have made the heavens and the earth by Your great power and by Your outstretched arm! Nothing is [was] too difficult for You"! (Jeremiah 32:17).
YOUR Wonderful Counselor
"His name will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Eternal Father, Prince of Peace"— Isaiah 9:6.
The reason we offer our eBooks and eWorkbooks is to attract men and women who don't want to travel along the same destructive path like everyone else. Counselors are not only expensive, they don't work! And, based on emails we get, they are what finally completely destroys marriages, because shaming your spouse and revealing personal secrets that shouldn't be discussed with anyone, are what counselors encourage you to do.
Instead, use our resources to find and establish Hope, which is better than any counselor or support group. Through our Resources we will introduce you to the BEST and most POWERFUL Counselor. A Counselor who is available every minute of every day, who actually knows the future AND what is going on inside your spouse's heart and mind! If that were not enough, it is painless. Listening to your spouse tell a counselor all faults with great detail, is painful and are things you'll remember all your life. It doesn't work, but further destroys any hope of Restoration.
It wasn't until all of us found the Wonderful and Mighty Counselor that we also found the Prince of Peace. By being introduced and taught to work with the Mighty Counselor, we each found peace for our tormented souls and that is when each of our lives began to turn around! Finding peace is the very first step to EVERY restoration, finding the One who can calm the storm in your troubled life.
Where Do I Begin?
How can I possibly handle the pain & confusion that I am experiencing?
From Erin (author of our RYM books):
Many people marvel that I was able to make it through so many intense trials in my life—and not just make it through—but go through each joyfully.
I must admit, in myself, I could not have made it through my first huge crisis, my husband's adultery and his divorcing me, and then disappearing for months. Along with all that pain and fear that went with it I also had to endure well-meaning people telling me things to do, which made my situation much worse.
Had it not been for my intimate relationship with my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, who I found for the first time was really there for me, I know I would never have made it through.
Are you looking for a "peace" that surpasses ALL understanding?
When my husband left me for the other woman, I was already a Christian. But I never really made Him LORD of my life. If this is where you are or if you have never had a personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, this is a perfect time to take this life-changing step to a life filled and overflowing with peace.
What is more important than your marriage problems (or any other relationship or situation that is causing you pain right now), is improving your spiritual state—which will change EVERY area of your life.
Most who have been cheated on or abandoned, go through their crisis alone and frightened, not know what to do. What you really need is Someone who knows the future and can change the course of your life—and NEVER ever leave you or forsake you, NEVER, EVER!
AND not only will He change you AND comfort you, He can actually turn the heart of your spouse, your older children, and anyone else involved. He promises to comfort you when there is no one around, no one who understands, and He will take you and hide you under His wings. He will fill you with the love that you only dreamed existed, which (in time) is what you will use to love your spouse. He can also heal your broken or hurting body and bless your finances. God is able to do the impossible in EVERYTHING, as long as we give Him our hearts and simply ask Him for help.
"For nothing will be impossible with God" —Luke 1:37
Each of us who have experienced a restored marriage, restored health and restored finances will tell you honestly that every time we went through some of the worst experiences of our lives (crises that would ultimately destroy most), we each had a peace that surpassed all understanding! And the more of God you have, the more you shine and ultimately benefit from the kind of crises that break most people.
What's exciting is that when people find out what you have gone through (especially right in the midst of the crisis) they will not believe how you have such a calm spirit and joyful countenance—and when necessary forgiveness!
Once you’ve really experience HIS forgiveness, you will find that He will help you FORGIVE everyone who has hurt or offended you! Forgiveness will lift your burdens and heal your tormented soul.
Maybe there have been times that you have thought about praying, but you just didn't know how. Believe it or not, the best prayer is just talking to God. He doesn’t really want formal and flowery prayers. He simply LOVES having a heartfelt conversation with you.
SO STOP RIGHT NOW.
• Just tell God in your own words that you need Him—right now to help you. AND if you don't really know if God even exists, then ask God to make Himself real to you.
• Now, give the LORD your life—a life that is messed up. A life full of pain and confusion, and ask Him to make it NEW! Give Him your heart, and then begin to experience His LOVE that is so real and full of compassion that you will find JOY at last—something no one can ever take away from you!
"Do not marvel that I said to you, 'You must be born again.' Jesus answered and said to him, "Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God'" —John 3:7
If you stopped and turned your messed up life to the Lord, then from this moment on your future will soon begin to look NEW, you'll look NEW, like you are BORN all over again!
You have no earthly idea how much God loves you, and how the LORD has LONGED for this moment—to have you as HIS own.
"Therefore the LORD longs to be gracious to you, and therefore He waits on high to have compassion on you. For the LORD is a God of justice; How blessed are all those who long for Him"— Isaiah 30:18
Isn’t it amazing how our lives are so busy and filled with people and things that keep us from realizing the LORD has been waiting right there waiting to help us? This is the ONE and only reason why God allowed this crisis (and every crisis) into our lives, because it often takes a crisis for us to come to the place where we begin to really need Him and are willing to give up trying and finally give it all to Him.
NOW, each and EVERY time you find yourself in need of help, of love, of direction when making each and every decision—talk to the LORD about it.
"Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He will do it" —Psalm 37:5
If you stop and give your problems (big and small) to the Lord, I promise that He will come to your aid and rescue or guide you through it. You will no longer need to lean to your own understanding or make a plan. From now on you can simply give it to HIM so He can prove to you just how much He loves you and cares for you by leading or even carrying you through every crisis!
"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight" —Proverbs 3:5–6
Not knowing what to do when a crisis hits, not knowing that HE is who you need to run to, is what will cause you to doubt that God truly loves you and wants to guide you AND will cause you to go back to or remain in crisis.
—Take HIS Hand—
Let HIM Lead You
Even though you are desperate for someone a "real" person to help you, there is ONLY ONE WAY and One person who can lead you out of the Valley of the Shadow of Death.
There is only One who understands exactly what is going on, on both sides, and is able to turn the hearts of those involved.
We who have experienced a restored marriage know without any shadow of doubt that you do NOT need anyone but the Lord to lead you through and out of your crisis.
"Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me"—Psalm 23:4 KJV
It's time to LET GO of everything and everyone AND take the Lord's hand, allowing Him to guide you.
Allow Him to speak to you and learn to speak only to Him.
Take hold of His hand and travel through Renewing Your Mind with what He says, Rebuilding your life with His blueprints, and watch as HE restores everything!!
Unlike the common notion that "counseling" is the solution, we do NOT offer what has proven NOT to work. Counseling and Christian psychology actually shoved my marriage from crisis to complete destruction. Like hundreds of men and women who found their way to us, counseling didn't help them either—but ultimately and completely destroyed what little was left of their marriages.
We do not offer the wrong kind of help or support. We offer what WORKS!!!
Now that you have made this life-changing decision, we LONG to give you loving support and guidance along the rest of your RESTORATION journey by offering you MORE of God's Word where you'll gain wisdom, knowledge and understanding.
Mark 16:15 "And Jesus said to them, 'Go into all the world and share the gospel [the GOOD NEWS] to all creation.'"
Isaiah 52:7 "How lovely on the mountains are the feet of him who brings good news, who announces peace and brings good news of happiness, who announces salvation, and says to Zion, “Your God reigns!”
eWorkbook and eCourses
Our NEW eWorkbooks represents an evolution in self-study materials for women or men in marriage crisis—without the cost, damage and embarrassment of sharing personal details with a counselor.
Within private environment our eWorkbook and Coursebooks, we provide you with a wealth of biblical resource for the couple in crisis—and better yet, it is proven to work better when just ONE (either the husband OR the wife) uses it.
Let’s face it, statistics prove that it’s usually just ONE who wants out of the marriage while the other is trying to hang on. Courts side with the one who wants out, adopting “no-fault” divorce that simply means the spouse who wants to make their marriage work has lost his/her rights.
Our Coursebooks and eWorkbook enabling YOU to study our materials at YOUR own pace, and in during your spare time own time (though we do suggest making it a goal to get up early and begin your day before doing anything else since RESTORATION of a dead or dying marriage is a very difficult and narrowroad.
Matthew 7:13-14—“Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to life, and there are few who find it."
Below, we’ve focused on just a few of the features of our NEW eWorkbooks.
As we said, a wonderful feature is that you can study when you have time. Since most of us have some downtime during our day – during a commute, a visit to the dentist, etc.– when we could be doing something more productive than staring out of the window thinking of the marriage crisis we’re facing so that fear and depression set in.
Instead Encouraging Bookstore recognizes this aspect, as well as the fact that what we need to address is not something we want everyone to know about. That’s why our eWorkbook and eVideos are invaluable. These resources that are available to read from your phone, are portable and always with you, so that you can work towards the positive rather than focus on the negative while “on-the-go.”
Print and Work
We also realize that for some people studying from a computer screen or phone just doesn’t work for them. Our eWorkbook offers the best of both worlds. Couples in crisis can print out worksheets and use them for journaling or purchase an inexpensive spiral notebook to use instead. Whatever medium you feel comfortable working in, our eWorkbook and Coursebooks will work for you. Don't wait:
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